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Lot of people mingled now nothing, or think nothing. There are many who mingled now feel is a failure, or unsuccessful. A lot of people mingled now flies to feel boring, had a very mechanical, flies have not thought and heart. We admire the success of every person in society, the envy of the side of the rich, the envy of the cars roaring past every one around. We always have this thought: Damn, how I fared so badly?
Yes ah, how I fared so difference? year class (around) as my guy how now so advanced?
Keep your eyes sour, let me tell you how mixed community.
mixed this struggling society only for friend is concerned, that work hard, take much money, status is not high, many injured, the former no way out of no backing, the future lost, goals for a class of people missing.
one, friends.
1, the mixed society, the basic configuration.
whole life, not a hundred years alone, there must be friends, if you want a qualified civilians, as long as the law-abiding, and that making friends with your temper, you are willing to pay to cross, unwilling to let him roll. but you want to mix something for the community to, you have to selectively friends, there are utilitarian to friends. for the average people, circle of friends at least have to have a doctor, a lawyer, a young officer, a policeman, a teacher, a local ruffians and hooligans.
why I say that, in fact, these friends, the usual basically do not need, the general circle of friends mostly colleagues, students, neighbors, because we usually deal with friends, drinking with friends to sing a bath, also the circle, and if there is no definite purpose, who will contact a lawyer or to deliberate a rogue do?
doctors, lawyers, police, teachers, rarely used these friends as usual, the key point is to save your urgent or difficult, and some can save your life! to the hospital, a doctor friend is worth celebrating, save the innocent The Aizai fee is small, rational drug use materials for you to contact his own heart, superb medical skills clearly a good doctor to help you see the doctor this is the real essential help. the role of lawyers, we should all know, bad luck you in trouble The key, he can pull you a strong one. Police have not said often in the social mix, how can I not wet shoes, cars were detained, the person checked out, basically these things have a Council friend to help you, you will not eat more than burned. The role of the teacher after the friends have children at home is concerned, is undoubtedly huge.
Some people say that the police know of these useless teachers of general practitioners, for example, you see a physician, ENT friends can not help; You want to help his son tuition English, language teacher does not take. put these issues are doomed in the community fared relatively low-level people. Are these people do not have their own circle of friends? ENT friend he can not find the internal medicine friends? school language teacher colleagues no one to teach English? you contact these friends at the same time, in fact, with his circle of friends who had common ground. to recognize that more prospective middle class, then why are not you a better opportunity?
officials, rogue. with an official of the friends, even friends of the benefits of a grass-roots civil service number, I think the earth to know. On this basis, the official the better, corresponding, Department as also the smaller the probability of a friend. As for why there must be a rogue troll friends, many people do not understand, is actually very simple at this stage of society, daily life, many things to solve with these friends, more than any other methods are much more simple and effective, but not unrestricted use, his side is quite large, not only with costs is not possible, consider how the specific price, please precise calculation.
For a more luxurious configuration, can has to be better, such as the circle of friends, there are rich, more than seven officials of goods, has a boss, a second-generation ancestor, there is a fork length of cattle, such as the circle of friends and then there are Obama, Bill Gates, then it's no mixed society, called the play community.
2, how you want to make friends handed.
Nothing is difficult for one person shenanigans. to make friends at once handed to close friends, this is not possible , but if you carefully designed, at least can make more general fair-weather friends, and for utilitarian friends, to achieve ears. The two are friends of the shortcut down the entire table wine, at least Lianshu, the words of the, several drink down, not a fake friend is a pseudo-brother. and for some people, following his hobby down to pay, never miss. who live in the world, impossible not to love, if you think a man does not love, it means you did not. He likes to eat and drink, eat and drink with him; he likes to sing and dance, singing and dancing with him; He likes to play innocent installed art, poetry and songs to accompany him. such and such times, he does not bring you worry about is known to have been, at least, is also enthusiasts.
friends have two points of detail, and willing to listen, if You will point the wind blows much the better. willing to be willing to respect money, you want the intersection of useful friends, but also extremely stingy, then had to ask you to continue struggling. Another point is to listen, this is actually very important, why do leaders So like the meeting? because a lot of people listen to his speech is too cool, why do psychologists and each patient at almost as a friend? because they can hold back the urge patients not smoke forever, can come up with an anti- appearance to the audience with relish. more fast-paced society, more and more selfish people, how many sick people willing to listen to you making a fuss over there? When you learn to speak a little boring, and more patience to listen to when Ayutthaya you be considered a little small deep, your friends will be more and more.
As for how to understand these different industries friends, speaking incredible, is really very simple. Americans have done a interesting experiment, they want to see a random number of layers between ordinary people to be recognized by the entertainment in a star or a top political figures, numerous tests shows that a random stranger, up to eight-relationship will be able to find this movie stars or politicians. relationships were essentially similar to the friend of a friend's father, aunt, nephew understanding star neighbor and the like. But what is certain is that everyone can find them through the layers of relationship! stars through efforts can still be found, not to mention ordinary people of various industries? or old saying goes: Nothing is difficult for one person shenanigans.
3, how to weave their own web of relationships as nodes.
Qian Kun Da Nuo + merely a redirection of the group, the relationship with a friends help friends do B, then C B friends of friends to do the relationship thing. words are good, it sounds beautiful, actually do it particularly annoying, a bad on both sides are easily offended. So Most people find it troublesome, so most people are civilians. weave a net that is a large consumption of energy, but once formed, you are MAD. When you take the bridge take the line, the more careful measurement and careful action, make some more success stories, unconsciously, you will find the capabilities of your ability to think beyond the.
not any of the provisions and principles of superstition. Road King Infrastructure Chairman Wei Pao This metaphor has said a few words: Never bow to concessions in the face of difficulties, the world is any difficulty you must have a walk through to go around to the road. I like this sentence, but also a lot to do in difficult and requirements before the seemingly insoluble problems, but always find a way or to walk or wear or bypass.
4, how to maximize their own interests.
utilitarian purpose of dating is to achieve investment in the real minimum and maximize benefits. some generous friends like someone else, but because they have difficult to find people face little help, this is a complete fool. Friends of the basic role is to help each other, or even from one level up about help each other is also a button to maintain relationships with friends. you know a friend, just want to help him, let him help himself, you want to die I Lei Feng Lei? In fact, if you're asked for the help of friends, friends Next time, peace of mind only when you help, it will not have awkward exchanges or tweaking. number of more than one friend will be able to develop into deep friend. This is a subtle psychological relationship, a lot of good use.
Another is that a friend you need ten thousand tons of smokeless coal accident, your friends just to sell B media without marriage, but B did not know. In this case, how would you do? a man said, This is easy to get Well, They know not to introduce into? that I want to congratulate the man, you have half as Wu Bai, a.
the correct approach is emphasized in a friend in front of all the difficulties, but they He will fight to try any help; in front of friends B stressed all the difficulties, but they will fight to try any help to him. you play karate, make pen post, incidentally, two more die-hard friends.
5, how discrimination Friends .
Basically, the order is this: a true friend can really have. each individual life can turn in one or two can be. Which I really friends if a dozen, and that this friend of your heart too much.
this friend is not so talk about is when you unconditionally pull you a desperate, is the first one in your cell phone number, your car breaks down late at night to wake him at the halfway called quasi-come, is that you find prostitutes was arrested after security the one who first thought.
not Need Friends That said, what the real estate owner, the party secretary and the like. you sure he is your friend after the friend that called Need ...
similar to his best buddies, in particular, to play that kind of relationship second only to true friends, the number is very rare. This friend is a friend to lend him money, as the relationship between the amount of depth given the number of loans.
utilitarian friends of friends refers above.
broad range of common friends, acquaintances, friends can also call the general. From strange bedfellows to a nodding acquaintance, and generally can be called friends, most of these friends can not borrow money, but few give you the money , that opinions should not even think back to the kind of lending.
Second, the quality of mixed cultivation of society itself.
1, how to treat their own quality
mentioned this problem, a lot of friends will not help to think of education, work experience, job skills, certificates, returnees, achievements, poetry and painting, and so respected in society, nothing. Everyone has their own unique skills. cite a simple example, can drink is a skill!
we often see in the example of a unit of society, people may grumble: MD, I graduated from key universities , highlight the excellent working ability, how to compare that so and so flattering to be useless. In fact, can be understood that the focus of your college diploma, with a mix of the flatterers and the leadership is entirely a bad ratio, in which you at this small environment, you are not the only skills for the small environment. this is rather cruel, some frustrating, but I only speak with the facts, after all, school education, social education is very different with .
I want to say is: Why are you always complaining it? Why can not you do a diploma with key institutions, the ability to work does highlight the good lackey?
a friend disdain the following: cutting, garbage I prefer to not do this outrageous incident.
flatterers do not fallen, and flatterer is not a derogatory term.
some friends or some self-esteem, drink all day playing cards online, play snooker, playing cards are the advantages or disadvantages would be?
and others at the friends you want, but you learn a few years ago Zhigu actively avoid Wanwusangzhi, never touch cards, online games, table tennis these seemingly boring things. so you do not like the , I would like to ask in the community, what is a silver tongue will point people tend to place friends, or you do not touch this smart entertainment, people tend to place?
a friend also said, to learn first, the other section Second not it? as you say, I play good Guzhe.
Do not be so understanding, I would say most people are ordinary people in society, study books, this road only for a few days type of player, you can not do the scientific community who ultimately have to fall into mortal, in the mortal world, will play cards and certificates in English six times as important! reason you will know the first book to learn this truth, that you The parents and teachers educate the students the results of long-term, but took to the community before, you do not know the question.
end of this section, I used the facts speak for it.
listing the ancient kings, you will find basically divided into two parts, part hereditary, that is, mouth, Golden Key was born as kings, some of the most vulgar grassroots people, many of them man of pleasure, poor wretch, rogue troll. they have nothing, so daring Ganpin, they There is no loss of loss, so there are big courage, they have no knowledge but wisdom, so and succeed. And those very smart, to read, read good books, but enough to live comfortably in the community made a fortune of people can not doing? doing advisers, doing civil officials, are doing grand. Zhuge Liang Wu emperor with the class why not, chieftains?
Similarly, the community is now the big fortunes of the owner, chairman of the board are backing what ? Several Peking University Tsinghua University? junior doctor under the leadership of then normal. But a closer look to them, except for that part of the hereditary, the first generation of entrepreneurs, the basic qualification is not too high, there is also the day after tomorrow ; up, and without exception, they are resolute wisdom. Is it not explain the problem?
I am not like everyone to their high degree of success, and their height is not simply by their own from hard times the opportunities the environment, their opportunities for small environment is indispensable. I'm just that one, the vast society, highly educated does not mean that high-quality, high amount of alcohol does not mean quality, not a thing constant, with leading high-tech employers are accompanied by leadership of appreciation and be led to drink the boss boss appreciated the interests of the two results are exactly the same income, the key is the second point, how to locate the play to their quality, how to identify the field of his position!
2, how to position their own quality
perfect character is the first, and intelligence out in the second. improve many aspects of the character but also, generally speaking one is calm and collected , and second, how the wind blows. quietly is for their own emotions, feelings, personality timely and appropriate control, a clear understanding of their abilities, clearly know each occasion the role, not to exceed, not retreat, do you feel role to play to the best. And how the wind blows is the observation of others, observing others in exchanges of character, ability, strengths and weaknesses, know what the other stuff, so choose an appropriate response. It is difficult to do two to, in particular, to control their own, really hard, from the little things, these two points as a habit, as time goes by, you will gradually mature in the eyes of others.
this state when you reach maturity when , you will be more sensible to look at the quality of their own, do not despise myself, but never look at high-yourself wearing on someone else to know true and false flattery, slander contempt for others, then you can full of confidence. On this basis, , and do basically very measured piece and learn to plan effectively promoting stable.
step is higher than the mature sophisticated than the ways of the world is a little more into Jianhua, a layer is stronger than Jianhua You do not know, not see who he is. This is called the fine people who are generally larger bureaucracy and business for sale.
have a good idea for everyone, this is a social studies graduate from the university the results of any of the top universities can not be found.
volatile trade before the twenty-year-old, three-year-old before the volatile work, thirty-year-old is not easily fixed after the winter pen.
twenty-five industry before the age of uncertainty. This means that even if your university is on the garden professional, do not necessarily have after the catch point in the relationship between the environment, chances are good you will play the first-hand piano, which bars employment your hands for the piano, which is a work, do not have to regret that the University of white on the the like, in the current China, the skills of the University greatly reduced, a computer science students, after graduation may not know where the inserted memory, write a simple loop program; a medical class, students learn four years of practice may not match the harvest year. twenty-five years ago, in one area can re-learn, re-started, because young and can afford to fail.
three-year-old Adventitious work. thirty years ago, you must determine an industry, such as stainless steel, or sell or do as a teacher, a painter, because these industries require a lot of time and effort to become familiar with and master, but the work place and time not fixed, you can quit again after careful consideration, until you find one you satisfied with the unit, the company team. because although you are not too young, but you do not pay, you can afford to toss.
after the thirty-year-old JINWOZI not easily fixed. thirty-year-old, your way of life is not much in the case of an accident, the basic shape, nor do I believe that you are the one area you have some of their own prestige and status. the most important to the stability of your family, children born, the parents gradually decline, and you gradually become the backbone of the family. In this case, caution is certainly not a bad thing.
above are general rules, if there are special situation, compared to non-mainstream, without repeat.
3, how to develop their own quality
First I want to ask a very old problem: If you paralyzed tomorrow, you reflect on the previous time, who does not regret?
I think most people would regret in some ways more or less. Some people regret not learn, some people regret not to fancy the girl bubble to get started, it was a regret not to seize the opportunity.
numerous articles are telling you, regrets are useless, and to look forward. which was a nonsense, sorry do not know who did not use? The key is how do you feel regret, I think even if you've been playing online games the past, abandoned the school, barren of love. It is not regret, because you get to enjoy playing the game, get happy. How many people are looking for can not find a simple pleasure, you can have, is enough. life in the final analysis, fun is the ultimate, absolutely do not want to work hard as a normal rush of years, how much time is their own? I advise you not negative, the fact that you community to contribute its part of the. drug use is the ultimate pleasure, but the cost of this to burn the joy of life desirable, alcohol, tobacco of the same nature, Notice is hereby given.
so after the events of the past do not regret it depends entirely on your understanding, in fact, I always feel that God is fair, it shut your window, will open a door for you. For example, we often sympathize with people with intellectual disabilities, that they are poor, in fact, their simple hearts, there's far more than you and me more happy.
sure I do not regret it later, do not want you to go to indulge, but you throw away the mental burden of properly mixed. from now on In order to find a higher level of enjoyment and work.
when you do not regret the attitude to go I think back, you can clearly see their character, weaknesses, past failures to understand, to the maximum extent possible in the future journey to avoid failure. Remembrance is a review and summary, and in addition to bringing you down outside regret nothing can.
I like some of the young people encountered many setbacks, they look realistic compared to peers , mature, strong and much more smoothly the children who usually seemed more aggressive, arrogant, and vulnerability. I even suggested that small to large are Examination of the second kind of failure is not a freak, can not afford the failure of expensive bag, but you almost can destroy the spiritual pillar of the kind of bitter, get up from this pool of blood in the reconstruction of the spiritual support of children is very strong. language is very bloody, but focuses on the importance of failure and frustration reminded. A successful person always fail, the fight against a bigger, or even stand up forever.
many young people now have a anxiety, they always want to success or the fastest to be successful, always wanted to seize the opportunity to immediately turn over from the current difficult situation, they always think of the great work, that the word is always passionate extremely entrepreneurial.
I do not want to blow this precious passion, but I really hope you can make full preparations, including details of any one of the most important thing is preparation for failure to do once. For lack of entrepreneurs in terms of experience and detailed program called specious than the more important opportunities.
said that, paving the way, I specifically talk about how to put actual combat in the community all their own quality. in society, progress, progress in actual combat in the community, university president --- note said at the graduation ceremony, is in terms of graduation, not the opening ceremony, society is not absolutely fair; community will not wait for you to grow! it can not control your school and society in a major psychological gap .
one is to choose the right skills, such as the one you are migrant workers from rural areas, you should have this sense that if I engaged in this work, in addition to money, what can I get? I've seen some of people, in an electronic factory to do a job, is to plug into one of several electronic components on the board, every day, day after day. this kind of work can give you a salary, the other little, which day plant down, you still follow disband. so even if a hundred years time, you still can not an ordinary one of the migrant workers. must have a sense of learning, must have a sense of learning skills climb, a A second year and Asan, an electronics factory to do this work, a study done welding apprentice, after five years or electronic factory workers, Ah, Ah Sam learned to alloy steel welding, high pass rate, his salary and status far more than the A II. This is a promising combination of work and study the crystallization.
know what I mean by it? the bottom even if you only work to do, you should try to find something to be learned work and have a strong desire to learn, in addition to the lottery, this is your chance to turn around the most realistic.
second is the potential to learn. Some people are less patient, as is always done in a short time, learn something always give up halfway, this is the most taboo practices in the company, units in the hard work, to learn the skills learned slowly, in turn won the get the certificate, the company that you hopping cursed boss, work unit that always play the yin to your boss is not stupid, when you can tolerate hard enough to grow up slowly, you will find that he is also slowly transforming your attitude, because he found it important to you I did. This time you look at the outside, N number of companies are waving to you, not the dream of a higher paying job. In the morning one day, you wear suit and politely to a resignation letter on the boss before the time His face definitely more than you were after an argument with him, refused to go when you slam doors and much more cool.
I believe that if you select the right goals, perseverance, sweat and tears pay a considerable, you The harvest will definitely value for money. And I said, basically we can do.
person's life before the age of forty four turning points, school, employment, marriage, career.
picking a major, there is a most important point, many people tend to overlook! in the choice of profession before, by no means the first to see how the profession how easy job how hot the fire. The first thing to do is: the home combing over all relationships, regardless what the seven eight-aunt, she can count on all to find out, analyze them in power, there is the location of areas in which relatives and friends, followed by analysis see if I can find a move, looking to find get moving, have the money and running, as long as the real reliable, and to be able to apply for professional development in his hands! such as your uncle in a large shipyard when the deputy director, you will analyze whether the next four to five years in office he whether there will be an accident --- that these bit cruel, but you have no way to sober analysis, grasp the cover if available, to report a shipbuilding majors, after the employment development will definitely be much smoother!
employment is a turning point, someone along the way learning, PubMed doctoral study, the trend out in the artificial lure, the thirty-year-old began to enter into society, get a fairly middle of the job, looked back and the guy next door Seventeen-year-old dropped out of school go out Kenshin, to help apparel factory owner opened the car a few years, relied on clever people learned some clothing tips for their home routine and opened a small clothing workshop, and now the whole car house mistress. You say what is called ? read always such in the book, the cost of paying too much in the end still can not successfully make the best of all its youth, if once considered undesirable ruined in this life, this bet too much. Therefore, I urge you, IQ medium, learning to stop, early employment opportunities in society, in the ivory tower than you the opportunity to much more desperate. even if you are the location and nature of employment is very bad, as long as you put your heart, definitely have a chance to achievement of a Fan. Of course, if you do not mind not good results, I advise you do not have to curse did not pursue a Ph.D. degree, you should have Ph.D. study of so much momentum, do you fight in the community can not?
marriage is easy to overlook a lot of people turning point, in fact, this is a very important turning point!
I hope everyone in the university, talk about love when the first through emotion, at least, make love (not including unrequited love, stream of consciousness) at this stage in the past, because the first love Although good, in fact, is the most stupid, the two sides did not have any practical considerations based on future, but for love, this can be good writers appeared, can be used for memory recall, after you are old, regard it as absolutely necessary condition for marriage wrong! not rule out that some people a successful, happy marriage, but this talk about probability can be ignored.
very simple, because love is not utilitarian, but I want to teach you is this: marriage is to with utilitarian! It is the basic shape of your life after a very realistic chance of emancipation, at least the chance of a happy life.
I say, sure there are many people would dispute that you say so, love and marriage what is the point? a handful of good life, you ruined everything!
NONONO! the contrary, I teach you a happy marriage, really!
I mean the utility, and not just the economic aspects, but also your mental.
hundreds of years ago, in a marriage, people attach importance to good match, a few hundred years later, absolutely no good match out of date, on the contrary, we should also have the meaning assigned to it by further . not just economic and social status of married, also include knowledge, awareness, education and other aspects of good match.
a school rich five cars drop out early age woman with a living farming the farmers (not discriminate against farmers, matter- ) marriage happy? If happy, it was the film, it was his mother's art. the reality is certainly not happy, why not happiness? Everyone knows the reasons.
On this basis, where in the quality difference is too large, would not say hundred percent, at least most of us that a heart would have regretted it. Well, a little closer to find a spiritual life partner, right?
I would say focus on the economic front, I'm not very good but the key detail that must rely on you to enlightenment. the world is much, but shenanigans, you can achieve in this society what height, was not cruel enough to see you, whether human, or on has been. I can only say, if you can find both of you are like a spiritual level similar to the other party can give you endless potential or actual benefits of life (or life?) mate nice ah! As for the phrase adjectives which can be removed if a few of your own choice.
is also an important turning point in career, and employment is different from most of the time employment is employment that we are forced to job, doing work I did not like , with I did not like dealing with people.
then a chance of a place outside in front of you, you have selective, and this is the career. It was a turning point, many people could meet the specific selection, please refer to previous chapter the third section.
health is absolutely critical
the first topic I will not say much, just state once again solemnly solemn solemnly remind you. Do not buy the first four years of life to get money, after forty In order to get money to buy. No physical health, your quality of life vanished. recommended at least once a day to remind himself that he is also healthy, feel the happiness.
do not have any excuse that if I do not really how to end what will be miserable, a long life as long as the experience in bed, your whole outlook on life will change dramatically.
learn empathy
often this attitude as long as you, you will learn tolerance, tolerance, it will make your mind wide extraordinary temperament.
you often complain about the boss of you hard, you often think you are unfair to your friends, but you never ask yourself this question: If the change over I was the boss or the other, how would I do?
do not talk nonsense What if I'm the boss I would give workers a lot of money, put a lot of fake or something, think about it, felt his conscience, if you do boss, you may even over than he; if you are other, perhaps worse.
often think so, your anger will gradually calmed down a lot and can understand each other's needs and characteristics, produce more sensible attitude towards him.
understanding will help you make more friends, to long-term cooperation so that we can keep you extra points impression.
but sometimes we will find that even for bit thinking, you will find each other too much, too unreasonable, then, is also hesitant what? tougher on him back ah. understanding by no means blindly patience! actual society, one of only ; the evaluation of people have usually fared in the community is also not appropriate to be forceful, you will find that will help to improve the position in your circle. This is kind of subtle psychological factors that would specifically look into.
From the perspective of the worst pieces to measure
No matter what, we first think of the worst results. This can reduce the success of feverish expectation of the event, after the failure to reduce a strong frustration, help you cool analysis, less over-estimated by their ability to influence. And so to think about, even failure, you also have a way to grasp the feel and enhance your overall view.
example, you put money into stock market to do business, you must subjectively does not exist when this money, calculate their own possessions, do not, like when Forbes, the real market value of securities into. unless you immediately discount, or you never know tomorrow you how much this piece.
objective in a certain range, to their favorable factors as conservative as possible to maximize the difficulties to be encountered, it will make you the best of a serious effort to prepare and make the greatest efforts to overcome.
this point as a habit, it brings you the benefits will be enormous.
must be careful look very good chance
we assume that in foreign countries, there is a country, experienced a fundamental equal distribution of wealth fifties and sixties, seventies around the corner and eighties eat crabs rich first, the policy of the nineties, after making the rich, the rich capital accumulation completed, of which a considerable part of the snowball generally become a giant, a monopoly or a government amnesty be ambiguous between officials and businessmen headed by a large number of Fortune. ... in the existing
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